These are two of the main concepts that are core to my approach in working with others here in my private practice.
The main topics of this article are just what are values, why are they important? Why we should focus on them? and how to discover what your values are.
This article is about moving beyond some of the simple mindfulness techniques as well as adding something novel to your practice to energize your practice.
In order for us to truly ingrain a new behavior, we need to do it with a great amount of frequency, consistency and intensity plus have a state of mind that is more adaptable so that when something gets in the way and disrupts our intentions we can still move forward. If we don’t come up with an overall plan, then it is less likely that the new behavior is going to stick and more likely that we will return to the old behavior due to this behavior being something we have been reinforcing with frequency and consistency such as mindlessly eating sweets or grabbing whatever is nearby us for lunch.
In order to create a new neural pathway in the brain (and therefore modify older behaviors or create new ones) you need to create a system that allows you to be able to pay attention to what it is you are doing. This can be using a log, a fitbit or other tracker, an application on your phone or, as I explain in detail in my last article, creating a chain analysis of the behavior you wish to target.
Some of the most striking differences between those who do well in managing stress are based upon the rules and tools that they learned from their family of origin. If the family was supportive and validating, then the person learned effective coping mechanisms (tools), learned how things generally worked themselves out (rules), and developed a good sense of self-worth. In other words they developed the abilities to be flexible, resilient, and remain curious.